Saturday, January 17, 2009

How To Make a New Year's Resolution

  • Step 1: Be realisting by setting achievable goals.
  • Step 2: Decsribe your resolutions in specific terms.
  • Step 3: Break down large goals into smaller ones.
  • Step 4: Find alternative to behaviour that you want to change and make this part of your resolution plan.
  • Step 5: Above all, aim for things that are truly important to you, not what you think you ought to do or what others expect of you.

Hope this will help! (ehow)

How To Really Forgive Someone?

Life learning today!
Most people have at least one person in their life that they harbor anger against for some reason or another. For some the anger is due to a serious hurt, whether physical or emotional, such as assault or abuse. For others the anger stems from less important issues, but the anger is just as real and just as debilitating. For instance the resentment that can build up in a relationship over many years over many small and large differences. For some, maybe it is a co-worker that angers you, they ask too much of you, they sabotage you, or they just annoy you. Why do we hold onto anger? At it’s root, it’s because we want to hurt that person back. The problem with this strategy is that it doesn’t hurt the intended. It only hurts us. Think about it. Can you be happy when you are angry? Have you ever noticed that you have more accidents the more angry you are? So how do you get rid of this anger? By forgiving.
1)Examine Your Anger - Take some time to understand your anger. Then you can go about finding a possible solution. This doesn’t work in all cases. But try this first anyway. Then ask yourself what can YOU do to make the situation better? If it’s about trying to change a person, the only way to really impact a person is to love them, praise them and continually discover and focus on the good in that person. This takes time, but try it!! It really works. If it’s an intolerable situation and you can’t ignore it, find a way to not be around this person.
2) Thank you For This Experience - Have you ever noticed how good can spring up from bad experiences? What did you learn about your inner strength from your negative experience? What did you learn about yourself that has made you a stronger person? This doesn’t make wrongs against you right. But it puts you back in the position of power, not victimhood. Remember, you have survived. Build on that! And little by little explore where you see small bits of green sprouting up in your life. Focus on that, have gratitude for that good, and you will be in the process of forgiving.
3) Meditate on Compassion - Imagine your antagonist as a baby. What has been their life? Why do they act in ways that hurt you or others? If you can find a small place of compassion, of understanding, then perhaps in seeing them as a victim of their circumstances, you may find a place of peace about what happened. Buddhism says: “for the victimizer is, truly, the most unfortunate of all.” Buddhism urges us to focus on loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity as “a means for avoiding resentment in the first place.”.
4) Turn it over to God: God knows what is good and bad for you. Trust your faith and continue the journey of life.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

How To Repair a Relationship

The first step to overcoming deep-seated issues and potentially repairing your hurt relationship is deciding if you would like to keep the relationship or not.
If you decide that you truly do not want the relationship, it is still important for you to forgive and let go of the hurt so that you can move on.
Meanwhile, if you want to keep the relationship, you still must learn to let go. It is important to let go of whatever has happened in the past, and then make an agreement to start fresh. This means making agreements with each other as to how you would like your relationship to proceed
Remember also not to get caught up in who is right or wrong, as this will add to the emotional trauma, not help you to release it.

Friday, December 19, 2008

How To Love

Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
1. Say it
2. Empathize
3. Love unconditionally
4. Expect nothing in return
5. Realize it can be lost
  • You must love yourself before you can love another.
  • There is always the risk of getting hurt, but that's part of letting yourself fully love and trust some one. Being hurt could be long-lasting and could hurt more than anything in the world.
  • Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.
  • If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it's for the best.
  • The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.
  • You just may find your soul-mate sooner than you want to.
  • If you feel any doubt of love your partner has for you, it is probably true. when you give and receive love 100%, you will have no doubt in your heart.
  • Don't ask for love - you should receive love because your partner wants to give you love - not because you want it from your partner.
  • Do not force love - it will come in good time, it will come.

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Open Relationship

Have you had the same sentence being said to you before? It doesn't matter if it comes from his or her mouth, it's just the same for both sex. He or she still wants to be with you but at the same time wants to be free from any commitments of a normal intimate relationship. We called this an "Open Relationship", which specifies a relationship between two people, and these two people or either one of them is free to have other partners.
Some people who are involved in open relationships may have a mutual agreement on permission of sex outside of the primary relationship, however there should be no feel of "love" involved.
Open relationship is not anymore a taboo in our world today. It is seen, however subjectively according to individuals as a test of the strength of a bond in a relationship.Would you (or your heart) accept it as that? That is a highly subjective question that maybe you yourself are the only who can answer it.
Occasional intimate relationship with another party besides your partner is something casual for an open relationship and may have little impact on the level of intimacy of the primary relationship but frequent activity, may find even the most tolerant partner to feel even a little nudge of jealousy, unhappy and displaced roaming over. It is human nature, and it is hard to fight the nature of how things are and should be.
This is all the same; eminently depend on a string of related factors, regardless if the relationship you create is "open" or "close". This is the part where all your beliefs, thoughts and opinion of things and how things are and should be play a bigger part. Whether it is on the issue of morality, relationship and sexual ethics, personal preferences and mostly, your tolerance for obscurity and uncertainty, you are the one who decide things through. You should give a thought to being honest and fair to yourself and to your partner.
All the best! :)

Friday, November 7, 2008

How TO Manage Your Boss

Well.. we always have a problem in have a good communication with our BOSS in the office. But we have no choice as they are paying our salary. Well i found a good write ups and would like to share with all.
1) Understand Your Boss - to build up a good relationship with them
2) Image Building Is Vital - Establish a positive profile. Supervisors will judge you based on what you can do, so do the job right.
3) Communicate Effectively - Put yourself in a good light by learning how to do a good presentation if the job demands it.
4) Manage Your Time Together - Agree on how best to organise things, spend time and boost productivity - and you're on your way to achieving a good working relationship.
5) Deal With Difficulties Rationally - Always keep your emotions in check, no matter how bad the situation may be.
6) Get The Most Out Of Job Appraisals - Adopt a constructive, not combative, attitude.
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